Today's reminder is about one's frustration and self control. Read until the end and I'll specify what the sun and the sea have to do with it.
Tell me one thing: Do you ever loose your temper and wish you hadn't? Or even struggle with negative or aggresive thoughts which just make you feel bad even if they were only in your head and never came out of your mouth? If you answered: "no, that has never happened to me. I'm always optimistic and calm in my actions my thoughts - actually Dalai Lama just called and asked for my advice on patience" - then congrats! You're inhuman AND my hero! But if you nodded, join the crowd!
"My name is Woolysocks, and I'm a peace-of-mind-aholic, I've been sober (without any disturbing thought or action in my head) for 4 proud hours now.." You know, I would love to be ZEN, a cool, peaceful girl who always takes a nice long mind-soothing breath in and out, before saying, doing or even thinking anything too hasty or negative. But to my disapointment, I'm not that girl - no matter what amount of yoga I practice or how many positive guidelines I have in store in case of a loose-of-temper emergency. One of these lines I read from my yoga classroom's wall. It said: "ACCEPT, accept and accept everything in life, the key to peace of mind is not to protest against anything" - I bet the writer of this noble thought..never had kids.
My son is the best thing in the world. Seriously,I cannot believe there's a gift like him and I want to express my love to him in any form possible. But, when he's is needy, clingy, not willing to sit with his toys for 2,5 minutes while I wash my face in the morning, I'm feeling a tiny bit of frustration growing inside of me. And for this yoga-thinker, I would like to ask how he would just "accept" the third attempt to feed a seriously hungry little guy, when he cries, turns his head away from the spoon and spits all the food from his mouth over and over again to floor and on himself..Then you think ok, stay calm, gentle and just try to comfort him as the baby seems to have a bad day, teething ache etc..But when keeping this 12 kilos of man-to-be in your lap who squirms, cries and pulls you away - you would just like to gently put him on the sitter and say: "ok, have it your way then" and go to a travel agency to book a nice weekend getta-away somewhere veeeery distant and warm. But as the child society worker might have saved your little angel away for good during your little holiday, you might like to consider something else.
Therefore, nowadays when I feel something or someone is about to steal my sweet sweet peace of mind, I do that gettaway in my head. When my child cries and refuses me putting him in his car sitter with every little muscle in his body, I'm already thousands of kilometres away in my head, to stay calm and smiling. It needs to feel pretty real to work though, so a good imagination really pays off with this method. I need to really concentrate on how the sun would tickle my toes and how the blue sea would send a very pleasent breeze to cool me off..I have a strawberry margarita on the other side, and there are absolutely no responsibilities or do-lists at sight, just amazingly relaxed feeling..
There is a risk I look a bit distracted few times a day and I hope my son doesn't have to go to a therapy because of it. But at least mummy's facial expressions stay a bit more relaxed and mellow AND, I have a very concrete example for his holiness, mr Lama if he ever needs an advice from a parent, who's really been tested when the frustration knocks on the door..
Ei kommentteja:
Lähetä kommentti